Clip the dead ends!

Yesterday I got a much needed trim at the salon. Long gone are the days when I dreaded a trim (seemingly known to hairdressers as a drastic cut) and embraced the fact that my hair will be healthier in the long run. This simple act made me think about other times in our lives when a trim (or drastic cut) is necessary.

What are some of the things people usually cut out of their lives when embracing a life change? What are some of your “dead ends”?

I am referring to “dead ends” as not only something that is leading nowhere but something (or someone) who is stopping you from being the happiest, healthiest, most positive version of yourself. Some of the obvious ‘dead ends’ that persons cut may include junk food or excessive alcohol. Persons may also cut toxic relationships romantic or other wise or even consider cutting an unfulfilling job.

One of my “non-resolutions” (see previous post) for this year is to protect my energy and personal space a bit more. This means being extremely mindful of the persons I surround myself with and the energy that they bring. In addition to cutting certain types of persons, we may explore cutting bad habits. But what constitutes a bad habit for you?

We all have our vices and honestly may not be aware of the impact some things have within our lives. Over the past year I made a conscious effort to complain less and show more gratitude. This resulted in a fresh new perspective and things around me started to change. There will be a blog post later dedicated to this.

A few years ago, a friend invited me to her church and during the sermon the pastor spoke about the things we welcomed into our lives and the need to cut what was not positive. He spoke on many areas, but what I found most surprising were the types of music we listened to and television shows watched on a daily basis.


Does this really impact us?

This is a difficult one for me. I always thought the warnings referred only to the “young and impressionable” but as a ‘grown woman’, this wouldn’t apply to me. Or would it?

I love ratchet reality tv, trap music, gangsta rap and dancehall music. Besides soca, this is my happy music and prepares me to face the world each day. While there are some songs that are positive, I must admit that there are also some messages that aren’t. The ‘World Boss’ allows me to brave morning traffic and arrive at work… for the most part… sane. Do I need to cut this? Say it isn’t so!

On a serious note, this made me think of the messages and energy around us. This may be music, movies, circle of friends, colleagues, the social media pages we follow, foods we eat, hobbies…everything!

Now looking at my hair, it seems to be thanking me for finally clipping the dead ends. Immediately there is more volume and life. This is a good start for healthy growth. I hope that this translates into the other areas of my life as I continue to evaluate and trim – more volume, more life!


2018: New Year, New Blog

Happy New Year to everyone who stumbles across this blog!

It is that time again, a new year. A clean slate for some or the regular scheduled program for others. However, it is a time that most persons become reflective and/or make various new years resolutions.

Do you make resolutions at the beginning of each year or if we prefer not to call it that, a list of action items that you hope to accomplish in the upcoming year?

Like most persons I’ve spoken to, I wish I could put 2017 in rice. Since this is not a viable option, I decided to take a quick look at what the year brought for me and dissect it objectively but with a positive twist.

2017 was an extreme roller coaster ride both professionally and personally but I must admit that it made for a lot of personal growth. As I looked back on the year, I made a list of lessons learnt and accomplishments. The accomplishments needed not be big, but even baby steps that have helped me overcome a fear, develop personally or professionally or even breakthroughs that were needed. This helped me not to think of 2017 has a “bad” year, but a year of growth while looking forward to new and better experiences.

I have made a list for 2018 but prefer not to call them “resolutions”. The word has become synonymous with being temporary and let’s be honest, once the newness wears off, most persons are finished with the thought of them by February or March. I do think that it is crucial at times to take a pulse check on our lives and review the path which we are heading and chart the direction that we want to go. I usually begin to reflect in November (for my birthday) and get serious for the new year.

I have a very practical list in hand and will need to make realistic plans to achieve each goal. Most things on my list are not new, but areas that I have neglected and seriously need to address or continue working on. Not sure about you guys, but I’m excited about the options a new year brings. 2018, Let’s do this!

What are some of the ways that you stay motivated to accomplish your new goals? Are there any goals that you would like to share? Also, do you work with an accountability buddy when trying to accomplish your goals?