Yesterday I got a much needed trim at the salon. Long gone are the days when I dreaded a trim (seemingly known to hairdressers as a drastic cut) and embraced the fact that my hair will be healthier in the long run. This simple act made me think about other times in our lives when a trim (or drastic cut) is necessary.
What are some of the things people usually cut out of their lives when embracing a life change? What are some of your “dead ends”?
I am referring to “dead ends” as not only something that is leading nowhere but something (or someone) who is stopping you from being the happiest, healthiest, most positive version of yourself. Some of the obvious ‘dead ends’ that persons cut may include junk food or excessive alcohol. Persons may also cut toxic relationships romantic or other wise or even consider cutting an unfulfilling job.
One of my “non-resolutions” (see previous post) for this year is to protect my energy and personal space a bit more. This means being extremely mindful of the persons I surround myself with and the energy that they bring. In addition to cutting certain types of persons, we may explore cutting bad habits. But what constitutes a bad habit for you?
We all have our vices and honestly may not be aware of the impact some things have within our lives. Over the past year I made a conscious effort to complain less and show more gratitude. This resulted in a fresh new perspective and things around me started to change. There will be a blog post later dedicated to this.
A few years ago, a friend invited me to her church and during the sermon the pastor spoke about the things we welcomed into our lives and the need to cut what was not positive. He spoke on many areas, but what I found most surprising were the types of music we listened to and television shows watched on a daily basis.
Does this really impact us?
This is a difficult one for me. I always thought the warnings referred only to the “young and impressionable” but as a ‘grown woman’, this wouldn’t apply to me. Or would it?
I love ratchet reality tv, trap music, gangsta rap and dancehall music. Besides soca, this is my happy music and prepares me to face the world each day. While there are some songs that are positive, I must admit that there are also some messages that aren’t. The ‘World Boss’ allows me to brave morning traffic and arrive at work… for the most part… sane. Do I need to cut this? Say it isn’t so!
On a serious note, this made me think of the messages and energy around us. This may be music, movies, circle of friends, colleagues, the social media pages we follow, foods we eat, hobbies…everything!
Now looking at my hair, it seems to be thanking me for finally clipping the dead ends. Immediately there is more volume and life. This is a good start for healthy growth. I hope that this translates into the other areas of my life as I continue to evaluate and trim – more volume, more life!